“…I found myself wanting something about the following: 1) how we can change the WHY that influenced us to make bad decisions; 2) So we need to identify that WHY and then we need to replace it with a new WHY; and 3) How do we accomplish that transformation?”
Lucy from In These Rooms
In this blog, I use the Steps from the Big Book In These Rooms to address Lucy’s questions and concerns above. This blog is about what occurs to me as Knowing WHY:
Step 1
We admitted we were powerless over our addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable
Felt and internalized powerlessness was and is the source of all my so-called “…bad decisions….” This requires honesty. This was the beginning of sharing my authentic lived truth.
Step 2
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
When I came In These Rooms with my ass falling off, I was open and wanted something better for my life. I knew God had more and wanted more for me. This is openness. This required me to deepen my trust in God
Step 3
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a Higher Power as we understood this Power
I decided to take the action necessary to have my life move in a new and different direction. This is willingness. This required and requires me to get comfortable being radically vulnerable.
Step 4
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves
This required getting real about my shit. This required owning my past, the good, the bad and the real ugly. This required full disclosure to find the root causes, the WHYs, of prior “…bad decisions…”
Step 5
Admitted to a Higher Power, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs
Somewhere over in scripture I read we need to confess with our mouth and believe in our heart to be transformed. There’s power in WHY. There’s power in our pain. This is the power of confession.
Step 6
Were entirely ready to have a Higher Power remove all these defects of character
I desire to be righteous. I desire to remain righteous. In Knowing WHY, I have come to understand righteous is not about indignation nor moral supremacy. In Knowing WHY, I have found righteous to be right-standing with my Higher Power. Defects of character ain’t my shit. Knowing better to do better is at the core of righteous and right-standing with my Higher Power This is at the core of Knowing WHY.
Thank you Lucy for your questions and concerns. Your feedback afforded me the opportunity to share on Knowing WHY.
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